Forgiveness

We have been receiving many comments on our blog, both from our daughter and her friends daughter that has been quite nasty. The anger is so apparent in every word written, telling me, I need to get over it, that I messed up, how much better off our grandson is without us in his life, and those are the nicer things they are saying. My daughter has also called several times with her friend listening into the conversations and the rudeness coming out with every word knowing that my grandson was within earshot listening to her say some pretty harsh things to us was really hard to take.

Children should never be exposed to the complicated world of adults, especially when there is a conflict between them. This includes teenagers who believe they are adults when in all reality they are just lost in this world of perplexity.

What we are most confused about is that she insists that she does not want us in her life and as hard as it has been we have respected her wishes but she continues to call and write these hateful things but at the same time refuses to allow us to visit with our grandson.

We on the other hand want what is best for our grandson. Since we had always been a significant part of his life, we do not feel it can be good for him thinking that we no longer love him and that we left him. It can’t be good for him having his last memory of us as being a yelling match between us, the adults. It can’t be good for him to have all the chaos in his life with her new “family” telling him that we are losers, crazy, threatening to make sure he stays away from us and some really other nasty comments. They are not related to this entire situation at all but they have infested their ideas into our daughter and grandson’s lives and they are holding onto this hatefulness. I will work extra hard on this one today.

Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself. ~Harriet Nelson