Time Alone Does Not Heal the Pain…

You have to work at it as well. This time of the year has always been a bit painful for us with birthdays and anniversaries of the deaths of so many loved ones. Instead of grieving we choose to celebrate, celebrate the life that once was and the good times and there were many of them.

Even though we had a rough time the other day when we received a recent photo of our grandson and neither of us recognized him. I cried so hard and the pain rushed through me full force but we refuse to be pulled back into the chaos and dysfunction.

He was sad and whoever sent it wrote that he misses us, talks about us all the time only when his mommy is not around and how mad he is at his mommy for keeping us away. This person suggested that she is partying with her friends all the time and drinking way too much. They also suggested that he is not being taken care of and even suggested some abuse and being left alone all the time.

Not sure how reliable this resource is because deep in our hearts, we know she is a good mother. We just continue to pray that she has not chosen to take the wrong path and follow in the ancestory history of drinking themselves to death. We believe she has a good head on her shoulders and will be able to fight those demons. That is one of the reasons it has made it easier for us to let go of our grandson, we know that no matter what, she has always been a good mother. Sure she has made some mistakes but for the most part, she learns from them and she moves forward.
 
We only wish the best for her and we always have the two of them in our hearts.